Despite the fact that they are not uncommon, Binge Eating Disorder and other hidden eating disorders, can be incredibly isolating experiences. People often feel immense shame and guilt about their behaviour, making it difficult to seek help and support.
One of the reasons that there is so much shame around these types of disorders is because of societal expectations around food and weight. We are bombarded with messages about what we should and should not eat, what our bodies should look like, and what we should be doing to achieve those ideals.
When we feel like we are not living up to those expectations, it can be incredibly difficult to admit it to others, even if we know that we need help. There's the shame about the amount of food they consumed during a binge episodes. There's the confusion around why we have 'no self-control' and the shame around feeling like a bad person for experiencing the urge to Binge.
We feel like we have to hide it from our loved ones, sneaking food and eating in secret.
While this on it's own is very difficult, hidden eating disorders can also be linked to feelings of anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem, which exacerbate feelings of shame and guilt.
Although talking alone doesn't necessarily heal the relationship with food - sharing it with just one other person can be the start of the healing journey.
If we tackle the stigma around discussing Binge Eating and hidden eating disorders, it will feel less difficult to discuss. It could mean people seek support sooner, and minimise the number of months/years that their disordered eating takes away from them.
So, what can we do to reduce the shame and stigma around Binge Eating?
We need to break down the idea that struggling with food and weight is something to be ashamed of, and instead create a culture of acceptance and support.
This might involve;
Sharing our own experiences
Listening non-judgmentally to others, and educating ourselves and others about the realities of today's impossible expectations.
Encourage and normalise confidence in all body shapes.
Speak out against fad diets, detoxes and "what I eat in a day" green kale smoothie crap.
Simply asking a our friends about how they feel about their nutrition and their body.
If you are struggling with binge eating disorder, bulimia, or another hidden eating disorder, know that you are not alone.
It can be incredibly difficult to reach out for help, but there are people who care about you and want to support you on your journey towards your life full of joy and confidence.
Don’t be afraid to seek out resources, whether that be through coaching, reading or other online communities. Remember that you deserve to live a happy, healthy life free from shame around your eating - we just need to build the path for you to get there.